The Fight

Message Notes and Group Questions

The Fight

Nehemiah 4:13 - “So in the lowest parts of the space behind the wall, in open places, I stationed the people by their clans, with their swords, their spears, and their bows. 

Nehemiah 4:14-17 - “And I looked and arose and said to the nobles and to the officials and to the rest of the people, “Do not be afraid of them. Remember the Lord, who is great and awesome, and fight for your brothers, your sons, your daughters, your wives, and your homes.” 15 When our enemies heard that it was known to us and that God had frustrated their plan, we all returned to the wall, each to his work. 16 From that day on, half of my servants worked on construction, and half held the spears, shields, bows, and coats of mail. And the leaders stood behind the whole house of Judah, 17 who were building on the wall. Those who carried burdens were loaded in such a way that each labored on the work with one hand and held his weapon with the other.”

1. If we are going to fight for our families, we must know the “why” behind why we are fighting?

2. If we are going to fight for our families, we must know who we are fighting against.

• Satan

Ephesians 6:11-12 - “Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil. 12 For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.”

• The World’s System (Culture)

1 John 2:15-17 - “Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. 16 For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride of life—is not from the Father but is from the world. 17 And the world is passing away along with its desires, but whoever does the will of God abides forever.”

• The Flesh (the old self)

Colossians 3:5-9 - “Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry. 6 On account of these the wrath of God is coming. 7 In these you too once walked, when you were living in them. 8 But now you must put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk from your mouth. 9 Do not lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the old self with its practices”

3. If we are going to fight for our families, we must know our weapons.

• Our Salvation

Colossians 2:9-10 - “For in Christ lives all the fullness of God in a human body. 10 So you also are complete through your union with Christ, who is the head over every ruler and authority.”

Romans 8:31-39 - “What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us? 32 He who did not spare his own Son but gave him up for us all, how will he not also with him graciously give us all things? 33 Who shall bring any charge against God's elect? It is God who justifies. 34 Who is to condemn? Christ Jesus is the one who died—more than that, who was raised—who is at the right hand of God, who indeed is interceding for us. 35 Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or danger, or sword? 36 As it is written,

'For your sake we are being killed all the day long;

we are regarded as sheep to be slaughtered.'

37 No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. 38 For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, 39 nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

• The Holy Spirit

Romans 8:11 - “The Spirit of God, who raised Jesus from the dead, lives in you. And just as God raised Christ Jesus from the dead, he will give life to your mortal bodies by this same Spirit living within you.”

Romans 8:26 - “Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness.”

• God's Word

• Prayer

James 5:16 - “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.”

• Your Church Family

Nehemiah 4:19-20 - “And I said to the nobles and to the officials and to the rest of the people, “The work is great and widely spread, and we are separated on the wall, far from one another.”

• Our Heavenly Father

Nehemiah 4:20 - “In the place where you hear the sound of the trumpet, rally to us there. Our God will fight for us.”

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Read Nehemiah 4:13-17

Q1: Nehemiah reminds the people what they are fighting for, “Remember the Lord, who is great and awesome”! It can be so easy to forget that God is great and awesome when we are in the middle of the battle for our families. Are there any “battle rituals” you employ in the spiritual battle for your family; maybe a way that you pray, or how you keep Jesus in the center of your home or relationship? If so, share it with the group.

Read Ephesians 6:11-12

Q2: What “scheme” do you think satan uses most effectively in our culture to derail and attack the family? Share your opinion…

Read Romans 8:31-39

Q3: Relationships within our own families can be the most meaningful relationships we have. But they can also be the most difficult. Do you know that God is for you as you fight for your family! How do you think God has our back when we are fighting for those we love?

Read Nehemiah 4:19

Q4: There is danger in isolation. This is the reason God created the church! How can your group help one another deal with challenge of raising kids, thriving in our marriages, and keeping our family strong? Share your ideas as a group.

Write down some of the ideas generated from question number 4. Adopt them in the life of your group and bring them up regularly. Let’s fight for our families…together! 


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The Fight

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