Fight Like a Man

Message Notes and Group Questions

Our Why – We’re fighting for our families, our marriages, our spouses, our sons and daughters, and for the generations to follow.

Our Enemies – Satan, the World’s System (Culture), and the Flesh.

Our Weapons – Salvation, Holy Spirit, God’s Word, Prayer, Our Church Family, and Our Heavenly Father.

Nehemiah 4:14 - “And I looked and arose and said to the nobles and to the officials and to the rest of the people, “Do not be afraid of them. Remember the Lord, who is great and awesome, and fight for your brothers, your sons, your daughters, your wives, and your homes.”

How Are Men to Fight For Their Families?

1. Fight for your family from God’s strength and not your own.

2 Corinthians 12:10 - “For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”

2 Corinthian 1:21-22 - “It is God who enables us, along with you, to stand firm for Christ. He has commissioned us, 22 and he has identified us as his own by placing the Holy Spirit in our hearts as the first installment that guarantees everything he has promised us.”

2. Fight for your family through a powerful prayer life.

James 5:16 - “The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.”

Two things that will hinder your prayer life:

  • Stay away from Sin

1 Peter 3:12 - “For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous, and his ears are open to their prayer. But the face of the Lord is against those who do evil.”

  • Honor your wife

1 Peter 3:17 - “Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.”

3. Fight for your family by choosing to cheat in the right places.

“God never promises to make up for misguided priorities.” Andy Stanley

4. Fight for your family without fear. 

2 Timothy 1:8 - ...For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.”

5. Fight for your family from your identity in Christ.

Romans 8:15 - “So you have not received a spirit that makes you fearful slaves. Instead, you received God’s Spirit when he adopted you as his own children. Now we call him, “Abba, Father.”

Romans 6:6-8 -“We know that our old sinful selves were crucified with Christ so that sin might lose its power in our lives. We are no longer slaves to sin. 7 For when we died with Christ we were set free from the power of sin. 8 And since we died with Christ, we know we will also live with him.”

Because of Jesus…

1. I have been adopted as one of God’s own children.

2. My present and future is secure.

3. I am no longer a slave to fear and sin.

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Read Nehemiah 4:14, Galatians 2:20, 2 Corinthians 12:10

Q1: People often wrestle with sin management (trying to stop doing bad things). But Paul told the Galatians we don’t win in our own strength but by faith in Jesus. How do you think men particularly hold on to sin management, trying to beat sin on their own?

Read James 5:16

Q2: James challenges us to confess our sins and to pray for one another so we can be healed. When we are honest before God, healed of the pain of our sin, how does James tell us (in the last part of this verse) that it affects our prayer efforts? Why do you think that is?

Read Ephesians 4:21-24

Q3: Andy Stanley once said, “God does not promise to make up for misguided priorities”. What do you think that means? Do you agree with that statement?

Read Romans 6:6-8 and Romans 8:15 

Q4: These verses say a lot about who we truly are as children of God (our true identity). How we see ourselves makes a huge difference in how we deal with life. For men, how can a deeper understanding of who we are in God’s eyes help us to be significant in our families’ eyes?

John Wayne said, “I define manhood simply: men should be tough, fair and courageous, never petty, never looking for a fight but never backing down from one either.” Consider closing your group time praying specifically for the men and their fight for the families they love. 


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Fight Like a Man

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