Fight For Your Marriage

Message Notes and Group Questions

1. Why Do We Fight In Our Marriage?

• We are sinners married to sinners.

2 Corinthians 5:14-15 - 14 For Christ’s love compels us, because we are convinced that one died for all, and therefore all died. 15 And he died for all, that those who live should no longer live for themselves but for him who died for them and was raised again.

1 John 1:8 - If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.

• We have unrealistic expectations

• We fear dealing with reality and difficult issues

2. What Must We Do To Fight For Our Marriage?

1. We Will Make Growth And Change Our Daily Agenda

Jeremiah 1:10 - “See, I have set you this day over nations and over kingdoms, to pluck up and to break down, to destroy and to overthrow, to build and to plant.” 

2. We Will Fight To Build A Relationship Of Love.

1 John 4:10-11 - 10 This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. 11 Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.

True Love:

• True love is not forced

• True love is self-sacrificing

• True love always has the good of the other person in view

• True love doesn’t demand something in return

• True love if often times undeserved.

1 John 4:19 - We love because he first loved us.

3. We Will Fight To Build a Bond Of Trust.

Nehemiah 4:13 - “So I stationed people behind the lowest sections of the wall, at the vulnerable areas. I stationed them by families with their swords, spears, and bows.”

• Prayer

1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 - “Rejoice always, 17 pray without ceasing, 18 give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.”


Matthew 6:33 - “Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.” 

“Forgiveness is a vertical commitment that is followed by a horizontal transaction.” - Paul David Tripp


Read 2 Corinthians 5:14-15

Q1: The Apostle Paul tells us in this verse that because Christ has died for us we no longer have to live to serve our own interests. How do you think this scripture could apply to our marriages?

Read 1 John 4:10-11

Q2: Does the way that God loves us change the way you love others, particularly your spouse? Do we always make that association? Why or why not?

Q3: Paul David Tripp wrote: “This side of heaven there is nothing more important for our marriage than to pray without ceasing. There is never a moment in our marriage where we are not in need of the rescuing, enabling, delivering grace of the Redeemer. There is never a moment when we do not need his wisdom, strength, and forgiveness. There is never a time when we have grown up enough that we no longer need his mercy. This side of heaven we will never graduate from the school of grace.” Do you struggle making time to pray with your spouse? If you do, why do you think that is?

Read Matthew 6:33

Q4: Do you ever think of your marriage as an opportunity to worship God? What would you say that looks like or really is? Explain your thoughts.


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Fight For Your Marriage

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