Fight For Your Kids

Message Notes and Group Questions

Nehemiah 4:14 - “And I looked and arose and said to the nobles and to the officials and to the rest of the people, “Do not be afraid of them. Remember the Lord, who is great and awesome, and fight for your brothers, your sons, your daughters, your wives, and your homes.”

How Are We To Fight For Our Kids?

1. We have to confront the idols of our own heart.

Ezekiel 14:4 - “Therefore speak to them and tell them, ‘This is what the Sovereign Lord says: When any of the Israelites set up idols in their hearts and put a wicked stumbling block before their faces and then go to a prophet, I the Lord will answer them myself in keeping with their great idolatry.”

• Idol of success

• Idol of experience

“Our kids are experience rich and relationship poor.” Andy Stanley

• Idol of control

“Successful parenting is the rightful, God-ordained loss of control. The goal of parenting is to work ourselves out of a job. The goal of parenting is to raise children who were once totally dependent on us to be independent, mature people who, with reliance on God and proper connectedness to the Christian community, are able to stand on their own two feet.” Paul David Tripp

Things to remember as we parent: 

1. There is no situation that is outside of God’s control. Ephesians 1:22 

2. Not only is God in control, but he’s at work in my child’s life doing only what He can do. Romans 8:28 & Philippians 1:6

3. The goal is not to conform my son or daughter into my image, but to help mold them into the image of Jesus. 

• The idol of comfort

Ezekiel 14:5 – “recapture the hearts of the people of Israel, who have all deserted me for their idols.”

2. We need to have clear goals for our parenting.

Colossians 2:20-23 - “If with Christ you died to the elemental spirits of the world, why, as if you were still alive in the world, do you submit to regulations— 21 “Do not handle, Do not taste, Do not touch” 22 (referring to things that all perish as they are used)—according to human precepts and teachings? 23 These have indeed an appearance of wisdom in promoting self-made religion and asceticism and severity to the body, but they are of no value in stopping the indulgence of the flesh.”

Goal #1 - We need to help our kids to realize there is a spiritual war going on for their heart and their soul.

1 Peter 5:8 - “Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour.”

Our Enemies: Satan, the World’s System (Culture), and the Flesh.

Our Weapons: Salvation, Holy Spirit, God’s Word, Prayer, Our Church Family, and Our Heavenly Father.

Goal #2 – We need to help our kids develop a heart of conviction and wisdom.

Goal #3 – We need to help our kids to understand and interact redemptively with culture.

Goal #4 – We need to help our kids develop a heart for God.

Two reason why do we struggle here?

• Lifestyle

• Familiarity

Judges 2:10-11 – “…and there arose another generation after them who did not know the Lord or the work that He had done for Israel. And the people of Israel did what was evil in the sight of the Lord and served the Baals.”

Nehemiah 4:14 - “Remember the Lord, who is great and awesome…”

Goal #5 – We need to prepare our kids to leave home.

3. We need to parent from the strength of our salvation.

• From our salvation in Jesus Christ…

• We have awesome power and we have everything we need.

Ephesians 3:20 - “Now to him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, 21 to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen.”


Q1: Maybe you have heard it said, “Things are often caught more than taught.” What are some of the ways our children catch stuff from us? Share your ideas.

Read Ezekiel 14:4

Q2: What was God saying to the people of Ezekiel in this verse? How do you think it affects our family when we point to God but harbor major issues in our lives? Share your opinion.

Read Colossians 2:20-23

Q3: Brian challenged parents to consider pastoring your children rather than policing them. Do you agree with that? Why or why not?

Read Ephesians 3:20

Q4: Parenting can bring out the highest of highs and the lowest of lows. How do we apply this verse Paul wrote to the Ephesians when the challenges seem overwhelming? Share with the group.

Group Leaders- This is a great week to reserve extra time to pray over our families/kids. If discussion or sharing takes up most of your time, challenge the group to pray for one another in some unique way this coming week. Remember, a group will become how it prays!


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Fight For Your Kids

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